When is a Spirit Mate no longer a Spirit Mate?
We have all heard the tales of long lost "soul" mates and twin flames and how there is just one person designated to us to be with for the end of all time. It sounds soothing you know, at first, but then as we grow and as we think we know this person, we realize they nor we are the same as we once was and wham, all of it all a sudden is a load of crap.
Relations are relations just like non spirit mates being friends and being lovers, when it turns domestic abusive, and mentally abusive, and even physically abuse, it's done. But we don't leave, their egos state that if we have to leave they will be swept up by someone else and this includes fear.
For those of us without ego's because ego's want to control others, and manipulate and posess one another and make you do what they want in an effort to control you, this is not love and they won't get better, they will only get worse even though it's you that has the problem, you are a twin flame runner!
Trust me, you have every right to be angry, hateful even, pissed off and so on at this person, because you have maybe wasted five or more months/years on this person, and they are never going to change, nothing is wrong with them, because they try and have the same kind of love with you with someone else to have their cake and eat it too and its not going to work with that other person. It's very hurtful. They are very selfish and not concerned at all with you and how you may feel. You have been there for eons for them! You are not going to go anywhere any time soon, its like you are the default bench player. They don't even know you quit the team!
Please let them know you need some time and a break from them, and don't come about them for at least 2-3 months. If they call just say, I am taking some me time away from this thing we have, it's become abusive and I no longer want to have this with you.
Watch them become all nice again, in a matter of 30 seconds it's "baby don't you love me anymore"? as your internal body gags deeply on every word, say No. Mean it. Don't meet up, do not skype, if he thinks he can get your naked butt to him, and make you feel a certain way again you do will have the best narcistist sex ever, again, and he's back on to sharing the same love he thinks he has with you to some one else.
YOU deserve better. You deserve all that you believe you deserve and if you continue with him you won't have anything but some memories and these are the best kind to say bye too.
He isn't a twin flame, he isn't a soul mate, he isn't part of your spirit. He is apart of an old dead skin you no longer wear -- just like a snake that molts and sheds it's skin and crawl away from it all shiny and glossy, and this is what you must do, shine.